Developing Your Dream



Many years ago – before digital photography, all photos were developed in a dark-room. What started as a blurred image was nurtured until it became clear. Then it was printed as a rich and vibrant image.

Your dreams are similar. What starts as a hazy, undefined image becomes stronger over time – especially if it is nurtured. Focusing on the dream, in the right way, can help it become reality much sooner. Alternatively, a dream left undeveloped will stay on the shelf.

Before you can move the dream to reality, you need to focus on what you really – really want! Is this dream something you want to be? Perhaps it’s something you want to do? Or maybe it’s something you want to have? Often it is a mixture of all three.

If you are at crossroads in your career, business or any area of your life – this next exercise is a great starting point to help you find direction. Even if you already have a vibrant dream it is worth following the steps below as they will help you to see the developing goal in a wider context.

6 Steps to Develop Your Dream

Step 1

What Do You Want to Be, Do or Have?

Write down everything that you want to be, everything you want to have and everything you want to do in the next ten years (or a timescale to suit yourself)

Let your imagination run wild. When you run out of ideas, take a break then go back and add some more. Don’t think about the practicalities or obstacles yet, concentrate on what you really, really want in a perfect world, where nothing could stand in your way.

For example, my list might start like this:

I Want to BE

  • Health
  • Financially secure
  • Be a popstar
  • Confident
  • And so on …..

I Want to DO

  • Go on a cruise
  • Learn to play the piano
  • Teach Children
  • And so on ….

I Want to HAVE

  •  A Car
  • A Profitable busines
  • A House
  • And so on ……

Once your list is written, allow your mind to work on it over the next 24 hours. When you think of another idea add it to the list. Each time you run out of ideas – try to think of 2 more, then another two! The purpose of the list is quantity, not quality at the moment!

After 24 hours review your list, fill in anything else that has come into your mind and that you have not yet recorded. By now you should have a huge list!

Step 2

Find Your Why


Now you will start reducing your list. This process will eventually give you a list of the things that are most important to you.

For each item on the list, ask yourself the following questions:

• What are my reasons for wanting to BE/DO/HAVE this?

• What are the benefits to me if I BEcome/DO/HAVE this?

• What are the consequences if I don’t BEcome/DO/HAVE this?

Write each answer in one positive sentence.

Cross out anything where you cannot answer, “I want this because”…..

Keep the goals that you can answer ‘why’ to, on a single list. This is the list you are going to work on next.

Step 3

How Does it Fit?


If you imagine that the areas of your life form a jigsaw – you will see that the pieces need to fit together well.

Now you are going to see how the goals you have listed slot in with the key areas of your life.

Decide the most important areas of your life – for example…

• Family

• Friends

• Career/Work

• Financial

• Health & Vitality

• Emotional Well-being

• Social Life

• Fun & Recreation

• Physical Environment (where and how you are living and your surroundings

• Spiritual Life

• Or other areas important to you not listed above

Aim at around 6 – 8 most important areas.


Step 4


Take each goal on your first list and subject it to close scrutiny.

For each BE,DO,HAVE goal compare it with each of the important areas above. Then ask yourself:

“Will this thing that I want to BE/DO/HAVE positively impact on this area of my life?

Yes = √ No = X

For example, ask yourself some simple questions such as.:

  • If I get this thing, if I become this person, will I be happier?
  • Will it bring me peace?
  • Is it going to improve my health?
  • Is it going to make me richer? / is it going to improve my financial situation? /put more money in the bank?
  • How will having this thing, doing this thing, being this person improve my environment?
  • What improvement will it give me in family relationships?
  • What will improve my social life?

Every time you can answer “yes this goal will improve this area of my life” give that goal a tick.

Step 5




  1. Focus on the goals with the highest number of ticks
  2. Stop focusing on the ones with the lowest number of ticks
  3. Write down your top 6 BE/DO/HAVE Goals


Step 6

The Big Picture

How do these top BE/DO/HAVE goals compare with your original dream (if you had one?). Is your dream going to help you to achieve your goals? How? What new goals do you now have?Once you know how your dream fits in to your overall ‘life’ goals, you will be in a great position to make it ‘Real’

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