DRIVEN © Goals
Stage Three: Real
If you have read issues one and two of the DRIVEN © blog you will have developed a dream which is still at the idea stage. It will be in soft-focus like an undeveloped picture, waiting to become sharp and ready to view.
Now is the time to turn your dream into a real, tangible and achievable goal!
Did you know that more than 95% of our decisions are made subconsciously? By using this knowledge in the right way, you can take a huge amount of effort out of achieving your goal. In order to do this you will need to engage both the logical (conscious) part of your mind along with the subconscious (emotional) part and make them work together.
Step 1:Write your dream down
a. Write your goal down in as much detail as you can imagine. This logical process starts making the goal real in the logical part of your brain.
b. Summarise what you have written into one or two sentences, making sure they follow these rules.
- Positively phrased,
- In the present tense.
- As real as possible
For example: Instead of “I want to get a better job” you would write: “It is (date) and I am in my dream career.”
You may want to add more detail such as the exact job, salary, place of work, hours of work etc. That’s up to you and should be based on your dream and not what you think you “should” do.
By using your imagination you to a 3d, technicolour, detailed goal will make it tangible and real. By engaging all of your senses, while visualising the outcome in a positive and happy way, you will feed your subconscious with a map to move you forward.
Step 2: Change the Movie
We naturally play ‘internal movies’ visualising how we think our lives are – or will be in the future. Often these thoughts have developed over a long period of time due to particular experiences and expectations. We usually don’t even know that we are playing them.
Our subconscious believes that our internal thoughts and movies are real as it can only make judgments on what it sees, hears or feels. The brain even gathers evidence to support the perceived reality and will find opportunities to ensure we ‘live the dream’.
Often the movies we play are out of date, or even counterproductive. The brain has ignored new goals or dreams in favour of staying comfortable. Perhaps I am in the habit of coming home and sitting in front of the TV every night. Then, even though I may say to myself ‘I would love to get that promotion, or run that marathon’ my subconscious can’t reconcile that with what it sees in the ‘movie’. If this is the case, my brain will immediately come up with a thousand and one reasons why the goal is not real or is even out of reach. You are unlikely to realise what is happening, as these thoughts have become automatic.
It takes a bit of work to challenge the status quo, but it is well worth it. To get rid of the old movie, we must replace it with a new one. The new movie must be much more vibrant and enticing than the old one and surrounded by new evidence to argue it’s case. The great thing is, the subconscious will believe this new reality and start searching for opportunities and evidence to prove it true and achievable.
Once you have developed the new movie, you will notice more opportunities and be more inspired to take the actions required to achieve your goal. Your conscious and subconscious minds will be working together to move you towards your real and tangible goal.
To change the movie, follow this process:
Relax and visualise your dream like you would a movie. Imagine you have already achieved what you want and are ‘walking the walk’. Visualise yourself being successful and happy, overcoming any obstacles easily. Imagine your surroundings, who is with you? Add as much detail as possible keeping it positive and in the ‘now’. If any negative thoughts turn up – just push them away politely, you don’t need them anymore, they don’t belong to you. If you have difficulty in getting rid of a particular negative thought or self-criticism, write these down on a piece of paper and rip it up.
B. Add sensations
Now add intensity and vibrancy to the dream. Turn it into HD and Technicolor. Use all of your senses to bring the dream to life. Step into the movie by adding sounds, tastes, smells and touch. How does success feel?
In your dream, success must be happening now and not in the future (if you dream it is in the future, that is where it will stay). The more vibrant the dream, the more successful it will be in writing over the old one.
Add a final part to your movie by imagining your reward. Make this fun. You are laughing and smiling, surrounded by family, friends or work colleagues. This is a final ‘anchor’ to keep you on track.
D. Play the Movie
Play your movie on a loop for a couple of minutes at least twice a day, until it becomes natural and you no longer have any negative thoughts popping in to your mind.